Thursday, May 8, 2008

DMG

My friend Dan emailed me today to tell me that a friend of ours from our days at Princess has died.

Dave was one of my closest buddies when I was just starting out in TV and he, Dan and I spent many lunchtimes, slacking afternoons and drunken Friday nights together. I even had one of my classic like-him-so-much-I-must-fancy-him crushes on Dave, though nothing ever happened and it was just because he was great and I liked hanging out with him.

The last time I saw Dave was when Max and I went to see the Polyphonic Spree with him back in 2002 and he's one of that handful of people I think about from time to time and always mean to get in touch with, but never get round to it.

It turns out that Dave died suddenly on the way home from a party the other day. At first the police thought he'd been attacked, but the autopsy concluded that it was heart failure of some kind. So I guess he must've been by himself and just found.

Dad has always said that the first time someone of your own generation dies is this massive massive shock and he's right. It's weird, because Dave and I haven't been close for ages and I haven't seen him for years, but it's still really shaken me. I feel a bit like when you know you need to sneeze but can't - I want to be really really upset about this, but don't feel I have any real right to, having not been in touch with Dave for so long. So there's just this weird nearly-sadness bubbling under inside me.

I'm really sad for him - he was a fantastically good bloke and a massively talented graphic designer - and for his family and girlfriend, but really pleased that I knew him - the first thing that springs to mind when I think of him is Fun.

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

BAKING DISASTER

CUTEST THING I'VE SEEN THIS WEEK: a crocodile of tiny children walking hand-in-hand in pairs and clutching a rope to keep them together. When a little boy at the back fell over, everyone stopped and cheered him on to stand up, then whooped and clapped when he did. Aaawww.

The past few days have been really hard again and the mizziness of last week has come back. Work has finally been coming a little easier, but it's still really hard and I've been feeling lonely and missing my friends again. Max has been great and really understanding and it's been really nice to talk to Mum and Dad, but I'm still stuck here by myself all day and just really wish I could abandon this work and go a-frolicking again.

It doesn't help that the Queen of Procrastination has turned her attention to planning a surprise weekend for Max's 30th in a couple of weeks, which has been proving really difficult. And I felt ill all Monday (I think my body just realised I'm not an uni anymore, so two late nights in a row with no lie-ins the morning after need to be paid for somewhere down the line...).

The BBC's Washington Bureau chief mentioned an amazing sounding island off Florida at the wedding supper on Saturday, so I spent most of Monday trying to find a good hotel there, because it'd be cool to whisk Maxy off to an incredible beach for the weekend - he's the boy who sits out in cloud, insisting, 'you can tan through this'! After much searching and cross-referencing of reviews, I found a good place to go, but then the flights only leave at 2pm on Sunday, so that'd be a bit of a waste of time. So then I started looking into the Brunswick Islands off North Carolina, which look lovely. But again, it wasn't until after finally finding a good hotel that I discovered that you can't fly direct to NC from DC. Gnaah.

I eventually managed to sort something out today and it's going to be fantastic - I'm very excited and have given Max a nice second hand copy of F Scott Fitzgerald's short stories by way of preparation. Oooh, mysterious.

Another source of sadness was my disastrous first foray into baking since we got here. Max was working late last night, covering the primaries in Indiana and North Carolina, so I decided to make him and his colleagues some brownies to keep them going. But they came out all burnt and weird and not at all tasty, which is a travesty!

But the glumness of the past few days was offset by bumping into Jane (new friend - husband's an FBI agent...) on the street the other day. It suddenly felt like I know DC and that we're really at home here, so that's nice. I'm also comforted by the promising primary results last night and am cautiously excited that it's looking good for Obama (again).

We're gobbling up 'The West Wing' like there's no tomorrow and find ourselves weeping at every single episode. It's so brilliantly cast and terrifically written and I'm getting a lot more out of it now I have a vague understanding of American politics, as well as recognising references to streets in DC. I find it amazing that there's a programme that can be funny and easy to watch, while every episode effectively preventing a debate on some major issue - be it gun control, gays in the military, proportional repsonse or freedom of speech - all in the name of entertainment. Awesome.

However, there may be something even more awesome than that on the horizon. The head of the New York bureau has sent a friend request to Max and me on Facebook. While Max has accepted, I find the whole thing a little weird, because I didn't really talk to him much on Saturday and he's a hardcore bossman, so not really someone I'd like to see the pointless stuff I do on the 'book.

However, I obviously took the opportunity to snoop and check out his page, which had his status as going to see Flight of the Conchords at Madison Square Garden tonight. This is earth-shatteringly exciting, as it means that they're here in the States, so may be touring. So I checked it out on the internet and sure enough, they're playing two gigs in DC this Friday!!! Aaaarrrgggghhh - the thought of seeing them live is just too much to take.

Both shows are sold out, but I've found a couple of highly inflated tickets on a peculiar-looking website that seems to basically be an online ticket tout. So I've ordered them, but will eat my shoes if the tickets turn up. They're due to arrive before noon on Friday, so I'm not letting myself get excited until I have the actual tickets in my hand...

Sunday, May 4, 2008

SUNDAY IN THE CITY

COOLEST THING I SAW TODAY: turtles in Central Park!

Today was a vintage New York day. It was beautifully sunny, we had nowhere to be in a hurry and just got to hang out with friends and mooch about. We headed downtown a bit to meet Jo for breakfast and while we were waiting for her, Mark and Max tried on sunglasses at a street market we happened upon. I wish I'd got a picture of the old lady trying on some Kanye West stripey glasses, much to the amusement of her grandson (and me).

When Jo arrived, we went for another stellar breakfast, this time washed down with cocktails (bucks fizz and smoked salmon bagel - mmm) and then moseyed through Central Park until it was time for Max and I to head to the bus. Jo's won a scholarship to study in Paris this summer and Mat will be going to his folks' villa in the south of France, so it was sad to say goodbye until the autumn.

There was great drama on the bus because, not only did everyone vote for a movie again (grrr!), but our bus was full before the departure time so - because there was another bus right behind it ready to leave at the advertised time - a couple of people who were saving seats for latecomers were asked to leave so we could get a headstart. They didn't take this too well and kicked up such a fuss - it was all most dramatic, but eventually I just wanted to knock their heads together and point to the bus waiting for them directly behind our one.

As the distinctly unseasonal 'Elf' blasted out into the coach, we got deeper into 'The West Wing' on our laptop, just managing to get a couple of episodes in before the battery died. Chatting away afterwards, we decided that our settling-in period in DC is over and that it's time we built a social life for ourselves. We've been living in a little self-contained bubble since we got here, which is very different from our life in London, spent having drinks or dinner with friends most evenings. So we're going to get in touch with the friends-of-friends-of-friends that we've been told live in DC and really start to commit to this whole Washington thing, now the time of adjustment is done. First stop: supper with Geoff and Sarah on Saturday - yeay!

The journey was way more speedy than on the way there, and - just like when we came back from Pennsylvania - it really felt like coming home to be returning to DC. We grabbed supper at Raku - the yummy Japanese place near Dupont Circle - before dashing home for some more 'West Wing'. And so the addiction begins...

Saturday, May 3, 2008

SO GOOD THEY NAMED IT TWICE

MOST FRIGHTENING VISION OF THE FUTURE SEEN TODAY: a 3-year old child dressed like Bodie from 'The Wire', complete with stocking on his head

When we arranged (/invited ourselves) to stay with Grace and Mark in New York, we kind of forgot about Max's allergy to cats that is so strong that he sneezes if he wears a jumper he last wore in a house of cats. So you can only imagine how much he's been sneezing since being woken up by Mark and Grace's gorgeous cats Winston and Clementine gently padding their way over our bed this morning.

Miraculously unaffected by our lack of sleep, we headed out to the Bronx to watch Grace play football. I've never been that far north in New York, so it was an exciting adventure. Although I was feeling pretty good on my 5 hours sleep, I was relieved not to be in Grace's shoes/football boots - having to dash around - but was excited to see that her team was winning by the time we arrived.

Only one member of the other team seemed to be actually doing anything, while kind of stretched the definition of female soccer player. Her admirable ball skills (and distinctly masculine looks) were coupled with a fierce aggression which - with Grace's team 5-1 up - culminated in Manchild (as Mark dubbed her) swearing at the ref after he pulled her up for a dirty tackle. It turns out that the ref had been a bit touchy throughout the game and sent Manchild off. Recognising that they were a one-woman show and that that woman was no longer on the pitch, the other team promptly forfeited the rest of the match and skulked off. Grace's team were a little deflated, as they usually lose to that team, but it allowed us to go in search of breakfast sooner, so I wasn't so sad.

An enormous New York breakfast saw off the tailend of our hangovers, but we all felt a little weary and not up for the day of culture at the Brooklyn Museum of Art that we'd planned, so we sloped back to Grace and Mark's, where we were introduced to 'It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia' (very funny) and watched 'Dodgeball' (also very funny, obv). Max and I were sitting in the most comfy chair ever and slept through most of these delights but I can think of no better way to spend the afternoon after the night before.

It was a real effort to get ready for Geoff and Sarah's wedding dinner, after 24 hours with genuine friends with whom we could relax and have fun. The prospect of an evening with all of Max's workmates felt like a real gear shift and we kind of didn't want to go, but it was fun enough once we got there, just not a patch on the night before.

It had taken Sarah and Geoff 37 seconds to get married at City Hall the previous day, dressed in jeans and t-shirts, and the supper was like a delayed reception. The guests were mostly correspondents and producers from the New York and Washington bureaus, so I knew a few people and found it quite funny to sit opposite Matthew Price, who I've only ever seen reporting from the Middle East before.

With Maxy chatting away to the head of the New York bureau, and everyone else being a bit intense and news-y, I headed outside to get some air. Standing on the street corner, I got an overwhelming surge of happiness at being in New York - it's just amazing. I feel about the city a way I don't feel about anywhere else in the world and can't quite put my finger on. I just love it and feel utterly at home there. As lovely as DC is, it doesn't have that visceral effect on me, so I'm excited that New York is just up the road and hope we visit lots over the course of our year in the States.

After an extremely tasty meal, the festivities adjourned to an Irish bar across the road, where it was clear that an all-nighter of merriment was on the cards. Max and I weren't really able to enter into the spirit of things and found ourselves fading around 1am, so headed back to the apartment. But not before reminding ourselves how ace Geoff is and making a plan with him to meet for dinner next week. We also met Geoff's strange friend Mike who mistook Max's knowledge of techno and Aphex Twin for liking such music and is now very keen that we come visit him in Baltimore.

Friday, May 2, 2008

DC2NY

FACT: people riding scooters and motorbikes in DC don't have to wear a helmet and many don't. They is crazy.

Every morning I struggle to ignore the fact that it's sunny outside and buckle down to the little work I have to do, but today I didn't even struggle. I walked Maxy to work, then just found myself pottering around not working all day. It was nice.

I met Brad, the ex-Peace Corps account manager at Bank of America who is from Michigan but used to live in Bulgaria and rural Japan. He helped us open a US account, which officially means that we're not just here for a few weeks' holiday. I might have to start using words like 'candy' and 'elevator' now.

After Max's work, we boarded the DC2NY coach which promised to whisk us from just down the road from our apartment to the centre of New York, where we were going to visit Max's four college friends who live there, as it was Jo's 30th while we were in Pennsylvania and also Sarah and Geoff (deputy Bureau chief Sarah who we had fun with at the cool bar we went to shortly after getting here) were getting married on Friday and having a celebratory meal on Saturday in NYC.

We had planned to take the train, but it turned out to cost $400 return for both of us, and as the coach costs $80 return for both of us and only takes 30-60 mins longer, we figured it was worth the saving to brave the bus...

I had read that it's much colder in New York than DC, so found myself casting aside my sandals and donning socks and shoes for the first time in ages. I even took a coat! As a result, I was a sweaty mess by the time I reached the coach (the temperature was in the 80s), while keeping my fingers crossed that the forecast had been accurate and that I'd reap the rewards of my forethought when we got to NYC.

We found ourselves cursing democracy, as a vote was taken as to whether to play a movie into the coach and the majority voted for yes. We were very happy with the DVDs of 'Ball of Fire' and season 1 of 'The West Wing' that we'd bought to watch on our laptop so, although the electorate mercifully spared us from 'Daddy Day Care', it was still annoying to have noises from 'The Inside Man' interfering with our screwball comedy ('Ball of Fire' is WONDERFUL!).

Our battery died just as we started watching 'The West Wing', but I can already tell that we're going to get hooked, albeit 9 years late. We eventually arrived in New York at gone 11pm and met up with Maxy's friends in a bar in the village.

It was just brilliant to see Mat, Jo and Mark (Grace was elsewhere, celebrating finishing law school. This included doing a power hour). It was the first time since we got to the States that I've been able to hang out with friends and, although they're officially Max's friends and don't know me super-well, we get on really well and it was like sinking into a lovely warm bath to be surrounded by familiar faces and fun banter and chat. It was just what I needed after a somewhat lonely week and, despite feeling knackered and grotty after the long bus ride, Max and I both got a second wind and were really really happy. My coat even came in handy as it was way colder in New York. The sweat had been worth it...

After some drinks on the NYU Economics Faculty tab (I'm not quite sure how that worked), we headed to another bar to catch up with Grace who was in amazing shape, having lasted a mighty 54 minutes of her hour o' power. The bar was very dark, very busy and very cool and we danced and drank shots and I indulged in some regrettably aggressive matchmaking between Jo and one of Mark's friends. It was such a fun night and in the cab on the way back to Mark and Grace's apartment, we nearly got a century - going 100 blocks without meeting a red light. We got to about 94 before the driver had to dive left into the park.

It wasn't until we got to Grace and Mark's apartment that I realised it was 4.30am! Those time-flies-when-your-having-fun mongers weren't wrong.

Thursday, May 1, 2008

WORKING(WO)MAN’S BLUES

ODDEST THING I'VE SEEN ALL WEEK: Def Leppard performing their new single on the US equivalent of 'Strictly Come Dancing'

It's been something of a tough week and I have been quite down, which is annoying.

I've been asked to do a week's worth of writing/thinking work for a TV company back in London, spread across the next two weeks.

This is obviously good news, because it is a rare opportunity to earn some money to spend on Gap dresses and not rely on Maxy's hard-earned cash. However, I've found it really difficult to get my head around everything and won't leave the house to have adventures so long as I know I should be working.

As a result, I've become the Queen of Procrastination and have seen many irksome tasks ticked off my 'To Do' list, having spent the past few weeks avoiding them! So I now have a cellphone, joined a gym, bought a bike and caught up on lots of letters and emails.

It's just an odd paradox that, despite having work to do for the first time since getting here, I feel more than ever like I don't really have much of a purpose and am little more than Max's appendage. It doesn't help that the only inspiration to've struck is that of choosing between the myriad cellphone operators and their various offers, rather than anything that might help with work. I miss being with people who know me and have really enjoyed having chats with friends and family back home this week (as I do every time, but particularly at the moment).

Anyways, other highlights of the week have included making a new friend called Jane. She's a BBC freelancer who popped round to borrow Max's work camera. She's super-friendly and her husband is an FBI agent. She does bits and pieces for the BBC, but is mainly a lady of leisure, so very keen to meet up for daytime larks. She directed me to this site of concerts, talks and tours, so I can't wait to get this work out of the way, so that I can properly become a lady who lunches with my new friend.

When I haven't been hitting my head against the brick wall of work, I've mostly been trying to get my new bike roadworthy. It's a thing of great beauty - if not quality - that I bought off the internet but which has become the bane of my life. The only reassuring thing once I'd assembled it was that it appeared to have two wheels in roughly the right place - everything else wobbled, slid or fell off. So I took it to a snooty bike shop up the road (and hill), to get it made safe, so that I could start tearing up the streets of DC.

I shan't bore you with the details, but if I did, then you'd know all about the mean beardy men at the bike shop who treat me like an idiot for buying such a girly bike, the many times I've had to trudge up the hill to the shop to get yet another thing fixed, the fact that something quite crucial fell off the very first time I rode it and that I've now spent more on getting it fixed up than I did on buying it in the first place. So much for a cheapy bike that would just do for the year!

Anyway, it's now as fixed as it'll ever be and I'm pootling around the city on it and do like it very much - it is very pretty and makes me whistle in a carefree way whenever I ride it, belying the pain in the ass it actually is. It will come in most useful for my adventures.

observe the starry handles!

I also plan to use it to go to the gym a lot. Max and I have joined the YMCA gym, which is half the price of all the other places (I've done extensive research, in my capacity as Queen of Procrastination!), has the biggest pool in DC and offers pilates, boxing and aqua-aerobics classes, which are my favourites. I have great plans to go there a lot, though my track record of gym membership tends to involve a fervent month of going regularly right at the beginning, followed by a prolonged period of never darkening its doors and watching the monthly fee leave my bank account for no reason.

The YMCA also has volunteer opportunities in community projects, which has excited me and is another thing to the join the 'list of things I'll do when I've finished my work'.

Obama's press conference renouncing Rev Wright made me worry. It's obviously a good thing that he's stepping back from the loon, but he looked soooo tired, like finding every word was a real effort. I'm also frightened that this indirect issue has the potential to sink his campaign (only because of the fuss that the media and Clinton are making), which is frustrating when I think of the number of things Hillary Clinton herself has done or said/'misspoken' that by rights should torpedo her hopes for the nomination. It's great that Obama is all about not slinging mud or sinking to the other person's level, but it'll just be crazy if his integrity becomes his downfall. I also hope he gets to have some sleep soon.

We had another excellent meal at the El Salvadorian place around the corner this week, during which Max told me all about the Scoville Scale of piquancy of chillies, as I was eating something unexpectedly spicy. He's so brainy.

THIS WEEK

all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog
all work and no adventures make Soph's a dull blog

hey, but pinch and a punch, the first of the month!